Beginning list to consider:

  • Making legal decisions

  • Organizing personal belongings 

  • Getting clarity about what your loved one's wishes are

  • Understanding medical emergency forms

  • Deciding when it is time for hospice

  • Hiring other caregivers.

  • Knowing you have prepared and done all you can for your loved one's quality of life, whatever that means to you and your family.

Helpful Article from INELDA, International End of Life Doula Association website: http://inelda.org/how-a-death-doula-can-help-patients-and-families/

My Philosophy

I began end-of-life care services as a result of seeing many people wait until it is too late to take care of incredibly important matters. During my work with several Hospice agencies, I noticed many families needed assistance before they qualified. Others waited too long to enlist hospice services when it was clearly time.  

 

  • Because we walk on egg shells around our fears, sensitivities, and admitting we will not have each other around forever, we end up letting our loved ones die in hospitals during medical crises. 

 

  • Or we miss out on spending valuable time together to remember our shared values, life purposes, and what a person's life has meant.

 

  • Or out of a fear of being too forward or greedy by discussing personal finances, families lose valuable assets and income going through an agonizing probate process, because no one ever asked mom if she had updated her will or created a trust to take care of her estate. 

You can't know what a person's wishes are until you ask.  

Midwives,  doulas, or birthing coaches are utilized during pregnancy to serve a woman and her family before, during, and after childbirth, helping the birthing process go smoothly. ​

An end-of-life midwife does a similar job during another important phase of life.  I sit down with caregivers to learn what their needs are, problem solve actions that can be taken to move forward, offer information and serve as an advocate for both caregiver and aging loved one.  

 

There's often a whole period of aging that can be utilized to discuss these kinds of issues (See list) to clarify, identify, and prioritize what still needs to be done to bring a life into order. Getting this kind of help and an advocate can bring great relief to you and our family and properly honor a life.  

Tel: 808-757-8124

Laura Miner, MAT, CT  

Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Thanatologist,

End-of-Life Care Consultant and Educator

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